Openness in adoption means creating, growing, and maintaining a relationship with the birth parents of your child. While it may seem like an intimidating concept, it is important to understand its meaning and how it can work for all members of the adoption triad (the child, the birth parents, and the adoptive family).
Openness begins when the birth parent chooses the adoptive family for their child. This journey to finding a family starts with counseling services provided to the birth parents. Through counseling, they are able to identify what is important to them in an adoptive family. They read adoptive family profiles and autobiographies completed by the adoptive family.
Once a family is chosen, the birth parents have the opportunity to meet the family through a match meeting. Your assigned maternity and adoption specialist will be present to mediate this exciting occasion. This meeting helps both members know and understand one another. This initial contact allows the adoptive parents and birth family to begin making decisions about the type of open adoption they are ready to commit to.
It is beneficial for both the birth family and adoptive family to read resources related to open adoption. Presbyterian Children’s Homes and Services (PCHAS) recommends the following resources.